…”But”….

I rarely say this anymore. I had a shift when it comes to this word. I heard someone say that when you say it, all that came immediately before it is cancelled out. Wait. What? Noooooo… that word is simply a verbal comma in a thought process. Isn’t it?

Someone invites you to a dinner party and your immediate reply is that “I’ve love to. But I still have so much to do that I’m going to have to pass.” Is that the truth? Would you really “love” to go to that dinner? I expect it was a sugar coated no. I bet you actually prefer to get all the “things” done. I bet you really are preferring to invest your time elsewhere… other than that dinner party. What’s the harm in simply saying no? How did we come to the point where culturally we say yes before no? Is it a surprise that have such a depth of miscommunication?

I have spoken about this before and I’ve noticed that eliminating “but” has become rather standard for me. Sure it slips from time to time when I use a predictable/common phrase… I’ve found though that I catch myself, regroup and rephrase. I feel better aligned.

And I know that when something becomes second nature, we’ve acclimated to its resonance. Truth is a lovely state to resonate with.